De Facto Leaders

In episode 013, I sit down with my husband Joe as we share how we handled conversations on some difficult topics when we first got together. Specifically, we talk about how we handled the money conversation early on, in addition to how we continue to manage our finances and talk about money with Olivia. I firmly believe that if you are in a relationship, one of the keys to being a good parent is having a strong relationship with your partner. One of the most common arguments in romantic partnerships has to do with money; so being on the same page can eliminate a ton of drama future down the line. In this conversation, we talk about: What it was like for Joe dating as a single parent, and what he did to gauge whether or not people had what he was looking for in a partner. What it was like for me as a single person thinking about joining an existing family unit (including my cold feet about parenting). How dating was different when a child was involved, and why we both adopted a direct, no-BS policy right away. How having the hard conversations early on helped to ease my anxiety about parenting. Our financial system we use for spending, saving, and investing (and how we use it to eliminate arguments before they start). Our philosophies on “guilt free” spending, and how we allow each other freedom with spending (and still take care of the important stuff). How we talk to Olivia about money; including what we wish we would have learned about money as kids. If you want to build a stronger relationship with your partner AND help your kids grow up with a healthy relationship with money, I know you’ll enjoy this episode. If you want a SIMPLE tool that will help you get through daily routines (like homework) with ease, WITHOUT bribery, arguments, or constant hand-holding, then check out the Time Tracking Journal. The Time Tracking Journal walks you through a strategy you can do in just 10-15 minutes a day that will help kids get tasks done effectively and efficiently, and critical thinking skills and self-confidence at the same time. You can learn how to get instant access here: https://drkarenspeech.lpages.co/time-tracking-journal-37-1/ The De Facto Leaders podcast was formerly the “Are they 18 yet?®” podcast. As of November 2022, the name of the show has changed, and we’ve shifted from a focus on parenting to a focus on supporting clinicians and educators to design effective services for kids (but parents are still welcome to listen). Episodes published before November 24, 2022 will still contain some of our old branding.